Balance

To best understand me, realize that this supports my life...not the other way around.

One time a client told me how reading this sentence on my [former] website turned him off because he read took it to mean: "I'm not going to spend time with you unless you pay me."

Well, yes, that's true. That's the very essence of every escort's ad and website. It's great he understood that. My personal social circle usually isn't made up of 65yr old married men. That's not the demographic with whom I normally hang out.

But his sense of offense blinded him from actual reading comprehension.

Escorting is a support system for my life, my life does not exist to support my escort work. I like my free time, I like trying to make my new business happen, I prefer it when escort work doesn't dominate my life as it sometimes has. That type of imbalance is profoundly unhealthy for me in every way.

I've seen horror stories on Twitter from ladies who feel they need a job to support their sex work. That's antithetical to me. If I can't make a living with escorting, then perhaps I need to reevaluate a number of things in my life and make changes. One thing I'm not going to do is support what should be high-earning work with a low-earning job.

Escort work provides me a living that I can use to further my goals, both personal and professional. I do not want to wrap my entire identity around escort work, the administration time and need for risk-mitigation takes up enough room in my life already. 

This means I fall way behind many of my peers on social media because I refuse to document every moment of my life and put it online. I usually don't even try to document it for myself, I just live it. I have a Sunroom account but have created very little content for it yet, so it's not yet openly available. (It will be at some point; I think it will be the visual complement to this blog, as opposed to an OnlyFans substitute.)

My Near Future

I'm working to transition into another field, which I know will take a couple years to become established and build my income because I'm starting from ground zero. I expect to be a companion for at least a couple of years. I don't expect to move from the Richmond area unless there's a profoundly great reason to do so (or a profoundly awful one, but let's stay positive). This also means I want to establish myself as an escort well enough to attract great clients, but keep the volume to a reasonable level that allows me the energy to pursue my other ambitions. I don't want to tour if I don't have to because travel is such an interruption to continuity on my other work, and it takes enough of a beating as it is. It takes longer and longer to bounce back from the physical stress of travel than it used to, burning up time and energy I could put to better use if I stayed at home.

High-quality men add to my life, which is what I want. High quantity is a drain on my life; a drain that pushes me backward instead of moving me forward. Like anyone, I have only so many hours in a day, only so much energy available per day. My limits are known to me, and I have to abide by them if I want to keep moving forward. 

Balance is the goal, which I'm sure is the goal for any person reading this post. You probably think all of this is obvious but sometimes a person only learns by experience, and I am that person.

Experience, introspection, reflection, questions and answers only I can offer myself. The answers may not always be what you want to hear but that's part of the winnowing process, right?

The right people will like my answers, and the mismatch will not.